Dear Joy,
There are certain things I will never understand. Like...why doesn't anyone else think avocados are mushy and gross? And especially - who in their right mind would volunteer to be on that Flavor Flav dating show?
But what I really, really never understand is anyone who has a problem with an engaged couple preferring money to toasters. Planning a wedding is no damn joke, mentally and financially. Give those poor kids a break! Who wouldn't want to give a couple exactly what they want, versus forcing something else on them? If it's a check you want, a check you shall have, I say!
But that's just me. So I consulted one of HereComesTheBlog wedding expert panelists, Natasha Jarkas of Le Belle du Jour weddings in San Francisco. Here's what she thinks: "With all honesty, writing what you had in mind is absolutely acceptable. To make it even more polite, you could even write: Your presence at our wedding is already a gift to us, however if you insist in contributing a gesture, we would greatly appreciate money due to limited space in our apartment."
Such a way with words, that Natasha! I hope that helps, Joy. Keep me posted on what you end up doing and I'll update this advice later.
~Jayne |
