One of the most hotly contested issues surrounding a wedding is the bachelor party. What's allowed? Are they sexist? How many strippers is too many? What's the problem with them? Are you a total square or what? They're just part of the fun! Cool out, man, cool out.

And these are just the arguments I've heard from other women!

Now, I expect some eye-rolling from men when I wonder aloud why your classic stripper-laden bachelor parties exist. But I never would have believed that the women I spoke to about this issue would get so defensive as well.

When I poll other brides about bachelor parties, I'm always surprised how "okay" a lot of them are with private stripper involvement. Don't get me wrong. I'm completely okay with guys all going out and Being Guys. I get that. In fact, I'm proud to be known among my husband's friends as an "un-uptight wife who lets D do whatever he wants."

But within reason here, folks!

I don't get why Guys Being Guys must include Chicks Getting Undressed on Guys Laps. Wouldn't most women kind of freak out if they walked into a room to find their man in an undelicate situation with another woman?

So what again makes it okay at a bachelor party? The fact the woman's being paid? The fact that his buddies are watching? The fact that your fiance is about to get married to you? Somehow THAT makes it...better.

Uh...okay.

I don't know. I'm sure I'm going to catch a lot of heat for dissing bachelor parties. But I don't think it makes women look strong or secure or "cool" if they're okay with an extra-wild bachelor party. I think it makes them look like they are afraid of standing their ground.

How hard is it to tell your guy that it's okay to look at the pretty lady, but would you mind not catching anything from her?