This article about wedding proposals blew my mind. Long story short, there's a guy out there who's fulltime job it is to help other guys propose to their girlfriends. You know, to really make it super romantic and wuzzy and special.

And I can't make up my mind about it. Cute schtick or intrusively over-personal?

See, D proposed to me in a pool hall. It's not as seedy as it sounds - he and I played pool there almost every single time he flew in to see me, back when we were dating long-distance. So it had a lot of meaning. In fact, it makes for a great little story I can now tell the rest of my life.

Maybe other women would prefer a proposal under the Arc de Triomphe, with their favorite song playing in the background, under a blanket of stars blah blah blah. But what if that is not your guy's style? Would you still want that kind of proposal? At any cost?

My answer would be no. Not because I don't think having a great memory of your proposal isn't worth the $300 or whatever this guy in the article charges. It is! Like I said, people are going to be asking you about that one little conversation the rest of your life. You better have a good story ready.

But the reason I have an issue with pay-for-play proposals is that the meaning in a proposal isn't where you are or what you're doing. My favorite part of my own proposal night is the fact that D had gone to the pool hall hours before to set things up. I knew this because the minute he asked me to marry him, our pierced and tattooed waitress swiftly replaced our beer bottles with a bottle of my favorite champagne. Minutes after that she pulled an armful of gladiolas (my favorite flower) from behind the jukebox.

Dreamy stuff, that.

So how about you? Would you rather rely on your own guy's wits and creativity and risk being proposed to during commercial break? What if he made sure it was your favorite show?

Or would you be okay with him hiring someone to conjure up the romance for him?

(PS - If you want to get your already-engaged guy a good resource - send him to this neat little groom's checklist.)