Man. Don't you just hate when you are engaged to a multi-billionaire handsome man who literally hoots and hollers about his love for you? And no one, like, understands?

Poor Katie Holmes. She's our downtrodden every girl, slogging through her maligned engagement to Tom Cruise. She tries and tries to clarify that it's not that he's loud- he's just passionate. That's not a predatory look in his eye-he's just intense in his beliefs. And those aren't lawyers...they're close family friends!

Imagine having to defend your man over and over. How exhausting that must be. Thank God you can't relate...or can you?

Think about it. No matter how great your fiance is, and how swimmingly your friends and family get along with him, I bet you that there is something you have to defend about him from time to time.

Let's say that a friend of mine has a wickedly funny fiance. I mean he has a razor sharp sense of humor. It's spicy and risky and a bit profane. So most dinner parties he has the room rolling with his repartee. But then every once in awhile he gets on a roll and makes a remark about how big my friend's butt has gotten and

---screeeeeeeeeeech----

The record stops.

The laughter ends.

And people start thinking/wondering/whispering "Is he always that mean to her?" They wonder if behind closed doors he may even be a little unkind to her. In fact, sometimes they get so concerned that they take her aside and ask her if "everything's okay."

Of course she's okay and he treats her like a queen but still she finds herself having to explain that's just his sense of humor. His sense of funny is just a little edgier than EVERYONE ELSE'S BORING BOYFRIENDS.

Well, she may not actually say that last part, but she sure wants to. How about you...anything you have to defend about your intended?