I've often wondered that. How involved in wedding planning are most grooms-to-be? Do they like participating? Do they feel left out if the bride-to-be is a control freakt? Is there really anything a guy can do in the wedding-planning process? I do believe there are, but he has to demonstrate a) that he wants to be involved and b) that he's got the taste or talent to pull it off. For instance, if your intended is great with money, have him manage the budget. (This is a great way to learn how finances will affect your marriage...) If he likes to eat (and most guys do), let him help you select the menu. There are a few other things you can share with or hand off to Mr. Right--let him help you compile the guest list (and trim it down, if necessary) and pick the locations for the ceremony and reception. If he's got good taste, let him pick out the attire for his best man and groomsmen. He can choose and purchase their gifts, too. Have him choose the band or DJ, and give him a shot at choosing the photographer and videographer. But there's one thing a groom-to-be can do that takes precedence over all this other stuff. He can help you reduce the stress and tension while you prepare for the big day. That's right. Whatever it takes! A dinner out. A hug or three. A serious back rub. A night of unbridled passion (if you're not too tired.) So there you are. Lots of wedding planning possibilities for the guys. Let him choose what he'd like to do--except for that last one. If he's good at that, it will make up for anything else he doesn't do...