Newsflash! Science has discovered a food that can diminish a woman's sex drive by 90%--it's called a wedding cake.

Okay. The newsflash was a joke, but not as funny as you might think. According to research, a woman's sex drive begins to plummet once she is in a secure relationship. I guess that means that, even before the wedding guests have returned home with their wedding favors, the horny groom is doomed. Apparently, more than just the bride and groom get away in the getaway car. The German researchers found that four years into a relationship, less than half of 30-year-old women wanted regular sex. Conversely (and sadly for him,) the team found a man's libido remained the same regardless of how long he had been in a relationship.

For a man, they said, a good reason for sexual motivation would be to keep his wife faithful. For a woman--get this--the decline in her sex drive may be down to "supply and demand. If something is in infinite supply, the perceived value would drop." So I guess they're telling us that we subconsciously deny ourselves of one of the greatest pleasures in life because too much of a good thing might be bad for our relationship. But if the man's libido stays the same, and he's not being satisfied at home, I think wifey is shooting herself in the proverbial foot.

There are actually a number of reasons for a woman's diminished libido, including the quality of the relationship, attitudes of upbringing, the quality of touch and sex, age, illness, children, use of medications and emotional well-being.

That said, let's look at some ways to jump-start our little ol' libidos so hubby's happy, and so are we!

Revving Up the Romance

There are several medicines and herbal remedies that may do the trick--testosterone, Estratest and Wellbutrin, to name a few. However, none of these solutions should be tried without consulting a doctor regarding usage, side effects, etc. And in truth, these medicines and herbs may not be the best answer.

According to WebMD, changes in lifestyle, attitude, and relationships may not be bought in drugstores, but experts say they hold keys to unlocking libido woes.

"For women, sex drive is critically dependent on being healthy and really feeling good about a relationship. There will never be anything that we'll be able to pull out of our medicine cabinet that will be more important than those two things," says Jan Shifren, MD, director of the Vincent Obstetrics and Gynecology Service Menopause Program at the Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston.

Carol Ellison, PhD. says TV has taught us to expect a burst of desire all the time, but in real life, where people are in long-term, one-on-one relationships with jobs, commutes, and kids, she says sexual drive isn't always present. Instead of looking for libido, Ellison recommends looking for a way to be more interested in your partner. Create a romantic atmosphere--do things together, take a walk with your partner, have some wine, hold hands, cuddle. Rebuild the romance and passion that was there at the beginning, and the desire for sex will return.

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