Eight Things Not To Do When Attending A Wedding

Regardless of how carefully a wedding is planned, there are some things that a bride to be simply cannot control. And one of those things is the guests behavior.

Despite the fact that a brides wedding day is supposed to be the best day of her life, some guests have too much to drink, others insist upon making cringe worthy toasts and at least one person says something that they really shouldn’t have.

Should you find yourself on the guest list of an upcoming wedding, here are eight things not to do on the big day.

Drinking too Much

First off, we have the small matter of drinking too much. There’s nothing wrong with getting a little merry at a wedding but there’s a big difference between merry and sloppy. The bride and groom have spent a lot of time and money on planning their perfect wedding. They’d probably prefer it if you didn’t dance on the tables. If you find yourself getting a little too tipsy, take a seat and enjoy some of the free food.

Forgetting Who You’re Talking to

When attending a wedding, it’s important to keep in mind that most people know each other. In other words, it’s important to watch what you say. A sly comment to a stranger mightn’t seem like a big deal at the time, but that stranger can easily turn out to be a close relative of the bride. In general, if you’re at a wedding and you can’t think of anything nice to say, you’re probably better off not saying anything.

Wearing the Wrong Clothes

Just because you haven’t been told to wear anything in particular, that doesn’t mean that you can wear whatever you want. You don’t need to purchase new clothes but you are expected to wear something both clean and reasonably formal. This means that guys should avoid sneakers and women should avoid short skirts. Women are also expected to avoid looking too much like either the bride or the bridesmaids.

Bringing an Uninvited Plus One

Brides to be generally plan their weddings with specific head counts in mind. Bringing a plus one without asking in advance is therefore not to be recommended. If your wedding invite doesn’t include the words “plus one”, you’re generally expected to show up alone. And if you’re unhappy with this arrangement, the day of the wedding is not the time to question it.

Hitting on the Bridesmaids

Contrary to popular belief, if you’re a guy and you’re invited to a wedding, you’re not actually obligated to make a pass at one of the bridesmaids. In fact, most brides to be would probably prefer if you didn’t. The same logic applies to their mother, their sister and their friends. A little bit of flirting is harmless but always border on the side of caution.

Making the Wrong Toast

If you haven’t been asked to make a toast, it’s generally expected that you don’t make one. And if you have been asked to, it’s generally expected that you keep embarrassing stories to yourself. There’s a big difference between stag/hen party humor and wedding day humor. Keep in mind that the bride and groom are surrounded by all of their family and friends. If it seems risque, it probably is.

Arriving Empty Handed

As a guest at a wedding, you’re generally entitled to both a free meal and an open bar. In return, you’re expected to show up with some kind of wedding gift. You don’t have to make a generous donation to the honeymoon fund but you do need to arrive with something. Even a well written card will save you the embarrassment of showing up empty handed.

Ruining the Wedding Dress

Finally, we have the small matter of the brides wedding dress, be very careful around it. If there’s one thing that you don’t want to do at a wedding, it’s spill your wine on the bride. It might sound obvious but it’s an embarrassing mistake that happens more often than you’d think. If you want to talk to the bride, always leave your drink down first. All it takes is one bump and you’re that wedding guest that nobody wants to be.


Author Bio:

Matt Moogan, writer of this post, works at xerodigital.ca as a wedding photographer. Xerodigital is a leading photography firm in Toronto which specializes in wedding photography and videography.

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