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It's been a long debate for years now. Who should choose what the bridesmaid dresses look like? Ultimately the bride chooses the color, but should she also pick the style for each and every bridesmaid? Or should the bridesmaids be able to choose what dress they will all wear on the big day?

I was chatting with an upset MOTG (mother of the groom) yesterday and she was disappointed with the dresses that the bride had chosen. "Who's choice is it?" She asked me. It made me think. Technically I had always thought that what the bride says; goes. It's her wedding and everything is her (and his) choice. When my sister got married, I subtly asked if we could avoid the strapless bridesmaid dress style. When she told me her decision two weeks later, low and behold, she had chosen the strapless dresses (of all the gowns we tried on!) I wasn't thrilled but I told myself that it was her wedding, and I will suck it up and wear what she wanted me to.

The mother of the groom was really wishing that the bride would have consulted with the bridesmaids (one of which is the groom's sister) with what style they were most comfortable in. Her point was that she wished the bride would have taken into account the shape and figures of the girls before she chose a dress. Which is a good point, and I'm sure the bridesmaids did have valuable feedback on the dresses but it's not really accounted for as bridal essentials. But ultimately... who's choice is it?

The question therefore still remains unanswered. What do you think? Who should choose the bridesmaid dresses?